1. Find the Right Sex Toy Consultant
Not all sex toy consultants or representatives are created equal. Some do it for fun and to make extra money, while others do it because they are interested in teaching you about sex toys and pleasure.
The same is true for sex toy party companies — they are very different. Ask around for a reputable company or google local consultants in your area.
Some sex toy consultants and companies are all about entertainment with little substance, while other companies care about the customer having fun while featuring quality products and providing useful information.
Once you find someone, make sure that you feel comfortable with them and they are someone that you could see yourself being friends with. (If personalities clash from the very beginning, it’s wise to find someone else who might be a better fit.)
Make sure that you tell the sex toy consultant the following:
– About yourself.
– About your friends. (This is especially important if there is anyone attending the party from another country.)
– Why you want to host a sex toy party.
– If you have ever hosted a sex toy party before or attended a sex toy party.
– If there are any specific products that you want to see.
– What products, if any, you own.
– If you plan on having any other entertainment or vendors.
Be sure to ask the consultant the following questions:
– What is your knowledge and background?
– Will there be products for beginner and advanced users?
– Will there be products in a variety of price ranges?
– How do you keep the presentation fun and interesting?
– Are there rewards for the Host?
– Do you carry inventory or will products be shipped?
– How soon will I get my order?
– Tell me about how much sex ed training you have had.
A good sex toy party consultant should be trained and educated about not only the toys that they are selling but also sexual health and wellness and pleasure. They should only feature adult toys and sex accessories that are body-safe and healthy, while helping you understand what makes you feel good and why.
Also, if they tend to be pushy or call/text/email you none stop, that’s a good indication that they are more interested in the high pressured sale versus having fun and teaching you about sex toys and pleasure.
2. Set Expectations
Invite friends who are open minded. Usually, the more people you invite, the more fun it will be!
For invitations, these days, a text or an evite is sufficient. You want it to be casual because of the subject matter. This is a fun event where friends get together and talk about sex.
Let your friends know what to expect. If you are hosting a bachelorette or birthday party, it’s ok if the bride/guest of honor is not aware that a sex toy party is about to happen (although you should know whether or not your friend will be into this type of event), but the rest of the guests should know the agenda. You don’t want to offend your guests and you also want people who will take this topic seriously.
Also, it’s wise to let your friends know that all the products are passed around and they will get to touch and taste everything. Many people think — especially men — that women get naked and try all the toys. That’s not what happens! No one tries any sex toys!
3. Choose Your Party
Sex toys parties come in all shapes and sizes. Some companies offer different kinds of sex toy parties with different themes, like Intro to BDSM and Fifty Shades of Grey.
Most of the time, these parties are all-women events. However, some companies allow parties to be coed. Check with your consultant if men are welcome.
4. Sex Toy Food and Drinks
Good food and drinks is an essential part of hosting an amazing party. At a sex toy party, it’s fun to play with the food and drinks and make everything sex/romance related.
Suggestive food make things more fun and light and definitely get the conversation going. See our Pinterest board for interesting recipes and ideas here.
A good consultant will help guests feel comfortable by being easy to talk to and knowledgeable about sex and the products. They will (try to) get the guests involved and help them feel less embarrassed about the subject.
Once your friends realize that there’s nothing awkward about sex or sex toys, they will be much more enthusiastic and willing to participate.
However, sometimes no matter what the consultant does, people are not comfortable opening up and talking about sex. Make sure the consultant offers an opportunity to take questions after the presentation.
6. Ordering the Products
Decide with your friends how you want the ordering process to take place. Some people and consultants like to have orders done in a private room. This allows guests to ask questions that they were embarrassed about asking in front of the group. It also allows guests to keep their bedroom adventures to themselves.
However, sometimes some groups don’t care who’s around and have no issue with ordering products in front of their friends.
7. No Judgment
A sex toy party is a fun event for most people but there are some who are just not interested. Do not judge and realize that sex and sex toys are a taboo subject that many people are not comfortable sharing with others.
Meanwhile, you should also not pass judgment on those who order products or do not order products. What happens in the bedroom is their business and if they choose not to share, there’s nothing you can really do about it.
Hosting a sex toy party can be a lot of fun. It’s a way for adults to get the pleasure-based sex education they need … or missed at school!
After all, pleasure is a birthright and EVERYONE should take advantage of that